One of my biggest inspirations in life was Mrs. Adler. You would not know her, but she had been my mentor since college. In truth, she was one of my instructors who encouraged me to beat the odds and perform beyond what people expected of me. Without her encouragement, I might have looked for a secretarial job with my knowledge of computers instead of following my dream of becoming a digital marketer.
Mrs. Adler helped me find my first job. I remembered her introducing me to a friend of hers, who I later found out was the owner of a fast-growing digital marketing firm. I was told that that company was specifically looking for female marketers like me, considering there weren’t many in the business. It was a male-dominated industry, after all. Because of that, even after years of working, I would still go back to my alma mater to hang out with Mrs. Adler and catch up with her.
Sometime in 2013, I found out that Mrs. Adler’s family was in a gruesome accident. To be specific, her husband picked up their two kids at school. They were on their way back home when a drunk truck driver collided with their car and proceeded to barrel through it until the vehicle smashed into a massive tree. The drunk driver survived, but Mrs. Adler’s family didn’t.
When I visited Mrs. Adler after the funeral, I didn’t notice anything different from her. She seemed fine on the outside; she was even smiling at me. However, when I caught her eyes, I saw that her smile did not reach her eyes. There was a blank expression there that I had never seen in anyone before. The only way I could describe it was like looking and talking to a doll. Before I left, I told Mrs. Adler that she could always call me whenever she felt lonely. She said yes, so I thought everything would be all right.
It Was Anything But Alright
A few more months passed before I could see or talk to Mrs. Adler again. I got busy with work, and I assumed that she went on with her life, given that she was full of wisdom and positivity. I went to the university to invite her out for lunch, but one of the faculty members told me that Mrs. Adler stopped working in a hushed tone. She did not even file for a leave of absence.
Would you like to know where I found my mentor? Well, it was in a psychological ward in the university hospital. I learned from a nurse that Mrs. Adler got herself admitted one day and received a depression diagnosis. She had been receiving therapy and antidepressants, but neither was working as well as the mental health professionals hoped.
I could not help but cry upon seeing my old mentor’s current state. Mrs. Adler seemed nothing like the proud woman that I aspired to become. However, I could not let her see my tears because she might think I pitied her. Instead, I tried to be cheerful as I greeted her. Mrs. Adler matched my enthusiasm but never once did she talk about herself. She just wanted to know how I was doing with work and everything else.
I visited Mrs. Adler multiple times after that. On my sixth visit, I had been told that Mrs. Adler’s condition was getting better. However, it meant that she would be released from the psychological ward soon. I worried that she would go back to her depressive ways once she was alone at home again. I voiced my concern to the nurses, and they helped me find depression support groups for her.
Which group has the highest rate of depression?
The highest rate of depression has been recorded in the age group 18-25.
What kinds of support groups are there?
- Peer support
- Open/closed group
- Facilitated group
Who is most likely to suffer from depression?
Middle-aged people – particularly women – are most likely to suffer from depression.
How do I find support groups in my area?
The best way to find local support groups is by asking your psychologist or psychiatrist for recommendations. As mental health professionals, they possibly know various organizations in your area that provide mental support.
Are online support groups effective?
Yes, online support groups are effective. Sometimes, they may be more effective than traditional ones, especially if the person needs frequent assistance.
Is there a 12-step program for anxiety?
Yes, there is a 12-step program for anxiety. However, you need to try it at your own discretion because its effectiveness is still not scientifically proven.
What are the 12 steps of codependency?
- Admit that you live an unimaginable life.
- Believe that you cannot get better on your own.
- Find your spirituality.
- Take note of your morality.
- Acknowledge and accept your misgivings.
- Prepare yourself to leave your faults in God’s hands.
- Request for the removal of your misgivings from God.
- List down the people you’ve burdened over the years.
- Heal your relationships with others.
- Remain as your own morality police.
- Repeat steps 1-11 whenever possible.
What are the 12 steps to positive mental health?
- Eat healthily
- Avoid drinking too much
- Prioritize yourself
- Stop bottling up your emotions
- Connect with family and friends
- Stay empathic
- Contribute to society
- Find a new hobby
- Embrace your creativity
- Ask for help
What is an emotional support group?
An emotional support group is a self-help group that allows people to exchange experiences and gain new insights regarding their issues with others.
How long should a support group last?
A support group session can last up to two hours.
What is a nervous breakdown?
Nervous breakdown is a clear sign of mental health issues in which the individual loses their self-control, overwhelmed by a number of incidents.
What is a women’s support group?
As the name implies, a women’s support group is an organization specifically created for women who experience various mental distress levels.
What are women’s issues in counseling?
Women typically seek counseling when they deal with symptoms of anxiety, depression, dysmorphia, eating disorders, stress, and other issues.
Are there online support groups?
Yes, support groups are accessible online.
Seeing your beloved mentor go through depression was very much like watching your parents suffer without being able to help them. I was lucky to find a depression support group for Mrs. Adler. They helped her finally come to terms with her loved ones’ death, and she got to talk to people dealing with the same issues. The last time I spoke to Mrs. Adler, she was preparing to go back to work. It was a sign that her depressive phase was over, and she was finally ready to move on.